Finding the perfect balance

You often hear that people wish for balanced well-being in their lives. I personally believe that there is no perfect balance. Life is constantly changing different phases that include different events. Life is then balancing between these different stages and events. Since well-being consists of so many areas, when one thing is right, another area may seem challenging. In general, life can be seen as different stages in which we are constantly changing. Nothing is permanent. Needs and desires change and we change as humans. The same things that we previously valued are no longer relevant or important.

Roughly speaking, life can be thought of as having different stages. When we are younger, we look for a life partner, build a career, life is more individualistic and we focus a lot on how we look on the outside and what others think of us. Life is also a lot of plans for the future. When we start a family, life changes radically and we experience a lot of different challenges with time use and where our own boundaries are, how we combine working life and family and where to find time for well-being. With age, the children move out of our house and are just temporary loaned to us. Half of our life is behind and the question creeps into our mind, who am I? On the other hand, there’s more time in life, calmness, confidence, boundaries and the need to take our own time and space. We also see health through a different lense. It is no longer a thing we can take for granted and we begin to understand our life’s limitations. Unnecessary fussing and stressing will decrease. At this stage, the idea of how we want to live the rest of our lives and use the time so that it would be as fulfilling as possible comes into focus. The question comes to mind, what is a good life made of?

In well-being, the priorities of different areas change according to life and according to what is important to us at that moment in each life situation. Some surprising event can change completely our whole life, which is why it is impossible to find a perfect permanent balance.